'Normally abnormal', 'encyclopedia of extracurricular gossips', 'pluralistic ignorance', 'a different slice of life', 'non-indulgence, nuisance-less, harmonious', 'self-love', 'negatively assertive', 'creativity and conflicts', 'friends and followers', 'wishes, luck and blessings', and most importantly 'AND', the list of such phrases is so long that I may even write a separate post on those.
Interestingly, he has removed me from his facebook friends list, I guess twice. And, both the times for a different and weird reasons. For the first time, when I had commented on one of his status updates calling him a 'copy cat', for he had put one of my text message as his status update without giving due credits to me. And, second time when he found one of my status updates on professors outrageous and disrespectful for the fraternity as a whole.
In first year, I came to college wearing a red color short kurta over jeans, I still don't know, what made this french beard, middle-aged, grey haired man to stare at me. He was wearing a faded shirt over a trouser and floaters. And, then, we became friends on facebook. This was surprise to me to see a professor on facebook, very unlikely in those days, at least as much my understanding was. I started commenting on his status updates. It was really encouraging to comment on his all updates as he liked almost all of them. Later, I realized it is just one way communication because he likes everyone's comments as such. Till that time I had not opted for elective of humanities department and I had no communication with him in person. Whatever, I knew about him was through facebook and few friends. Looking at the number of likes which his updates on facebook fetch, one would surely consider him a famous and affable person, at least in his own circles. Generally, students find him a decent and supportive professor and so was conveyed to me.
This is how my acquaintance with this complacent, just by means not by nature if I may say so, and extraordinary teacher, which is my experience with him, has developed. From, addressing him 'Sir' to 'Dr. Psychology' and sometimes with the initials of his first and second name, my relationship has developed with him, as he becoming my professor friend and a generous mentor. I find myself privileged to gain his attention, affection and guidance. In his own capacity, he always tries to help his students , who approache him. One may find him evading one's problem and proposition, both, off course it is a matter of choice for him primarily, but, later, one may realize, that he was actually trying to help people to prioritize. He is a practicing psychologist and works with industries, NGOs and provides personal help as well.
There is no count on the number of discussions and subjects that we have had. Also, there was not just one dimension which we were discussing. Sometimes it was political stunt of a college student and sometimes it was distribution of condoms in some youth conference. But, all such discussions made me realize that too much of assertion kills the beauty of discussion, one may express different opinions on the same subject, and, along with all, this was always a take away. Be it behavior of one of my professor or his own neighbors, he has always shown fascination for the details about people and instances. But, after all the gossips, there was always some crisp comment to ponder over, certainly, the interpretations are with the one who is at receiving end.
Do things which are necessary but keep in mind the urgency of each. If you have sandal wood, it would be worthless to burn all of it as fuel. Nothing comes for free and you have to learn to be happy with routine and yourself following it. If you want hundred dicks then you get two hundred balls too. Be what 'you' mean to someone. Discussions are for exchange, they may not reach the conclusion, always, but, they can take you to them a little closer.
His office, where one may always find low-tuned instrumental playing on his PC, few weird books on his tables and one in his hand and off-course one or other gossip friend or follower. Everyone is welcomed with some not-so-welcoming expressions or comments, which are abnormal, but, He is a psychologist after all. He has wife too; and, two kids. He has his own library of books and a nice bungalow. A proud maharashtrian Brahman who is very particular about his second name. Often, veiling his personal life, he has made this as his habit to keep conflicts away from him.
He works for children with learning disabilities. He is following a practice of taking the kids of his locality to all the different places and events in Nagpur, since 1992. Many of the 'Yogi Kaka or Mama' fans have got kids now. Morning walk and sleeping early are also few of his habits. Cooking a dish in lunch, daily for his kids, what he says, he enjoys a lot. In his class, he is interactive and open for discussions. His love for Nagpur, people and places and for every other thing in this world can all be found out through his facebook posts because there where he exists most other than his classes.
A person need not to be great to teach you, neither he needs much of knowledge nor a lot of experience, just a little empathy towards people is sufficient. Direction and not advice that one should be given and not immediately, it is a process which takes time so should be done gradually. There is just one line to live, so live it honestly, you can turn to erase anything.
"aisa kaam karo ki naam ho jaye, ya aisa naam karo ki naam lete hi kaam ho jaye"
Dr. Psychology, all your words of wisdom have always helped and will always do. For many this post may be of no relevance, but in everyone's life there is a person like you who is a blurry image for the world but helps people around him shine their image.
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